How We Overcame Years of Conflict and Pain and Created Greater Love in Our Secret Garden Of The Heart
How removing an old redwood fence that separated our houses led to an ongoing opening of our hearts to sharing ever deepening love, peace and new possibilities for our relationship.
THE DAWNING LIGHT # 115 Wednesday May 17, 2023
Photo Credit: Chinmayan “Lotus Buddha and Iris Blossoms In Still Mountain Meditation Garden”
REMOVING THE BARRIERS TO SHARING EXPANSIVE LOVE
As I look out the window of my writing studio aboard this tiny house, I can immediately see the results of our work together over the past few days in this secret garden compound that is hidden behind high fences and tall gates.
For many years, a large tall redwood fence has stood between our two tiny houses, which divided our secret garden compound into separate spaces.
It provided “privacy” for each of our separate yards, while our big old oak tree provided delicious shade in the hot afternoons for both sides.
One of Ani’s gifts is her ability to see the higher possibilities of spaces and to make the small or large changes to bring those out those possibilities.
I have learned to listen to her when she has these ideas for changes to enhance our lives together.
When she told me that she had had a lovely vision of making one larger yard between our houses by taking down the old redwood fence, I saw it as another step in our growing closeness and expanding love relationship.
I was so inspired by the blossoming of greater loving possibilities between us that I wrote a poem about this which expresses this in verse better than I can in prose and published it in “The Dawning Light # 108”.
I have reprinted it here today following this story…
It took us two days to take apart the old fence, which I had built long ago, using a section of wrought iron fence that was already here when I moved here nearly thirty years ago.
Once the redwood fence was taken apart, it was amazing how much better and more beautiful the compound feels with the unified yard.
WE WORKED THROUGH YEARS OF CONFLICT AND PAIN
It is a symbol; of the far greater sense of peace, harmony and divine alignment that we are sharing in our relationship now that we have dissolved many of the old, seemingly intractable barriers between our hearts.
We know that there is much more healing and forward steps to be taken as we grow closer still on this journey of love, but we know we have made major progress and that wherever our relationship blooms from here will bring ever greater possibilities…which will require our continued inner work, communication and making changes.
But how wonderful it is to be able to say to her….”How sweet it is to be loved by you!”
Our life together, like this garden, needs constant care and watering to grow into its full beautiful potential. In our relationship, there is no easy “happily ever after”, like in the fairy tales of our childhood.
Whatever we have achieved, however far we have come in the years we have been in relationship, was realized through our both doing the hard work of facing the gnarly things from our past that needed to be healed, while refusing to give up on each other.
Photo Credit: Chinmayan
WE HAVE ALWAYS HAD TO WORK THROUGH SO MUCH HARD STUFF
We have always had to work for it.
Some relationships may be born out of easy sweetness and hearts in natural alignment, which would have been wonderful.
But ours was born out of fire and conflict because we were both carrying so many terrible deep wounds from our childhoods and earlier life that were hard to deal with.
KNOWING THAT “LOVE BRINGS UP EVERYTHING UN LIKE ITSELF TO BE HEALED” IS THE DIVINE PURPOSE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP changes everything…
It is a truth that “True Love brings up everything unlike itself to be healed”.
We understand that the divine purpose of the real deep love relationships which grace our lives is for this healing of broken hearts and shattered spirits so we can be whole again and recover our full selves through the power of shared love.
This has been and continues to be true for us.
We had years of fiery conflicts when we would trigger the negative afflictive patterns from those old wounds in each other and kept those old barriers in place between our hearts.
But step by step, day by day the power of our deep bond and love did its sweet work until finally those barriers started melting away.
Now, whenever we uncover deeper wounds, we are able to work to heal them through communication and standing firm on the higher ground we have established.
Like this beautiful garden we now get to live in and enjoy— our lives just keep getting better and better now that the old fences between us have come down.
Photo Credit: Nicola Smith “Our New Sanctuary In Our Transformed Secret Garden Compound”
UNITING THE TWO INTO ONE In The Expansive Growth of True Love We are taking down an Old high fence between Our two houses just As we are taking down Old barriers between Between our two hearts. With the fence removed, Which had stood between us For many years, we Will have one large yard From joining the two into one… And will build a new place To sit together for tea Or talk or meetings or Communing with nature Together under the deep shade Of the oak tree’s Wide spread branches. In every way, On every level, Day by glorious day, We are freely And joyously joining Our hearts together In this life we share— Knowing for sure that we Will not turn back To the old ways and days Of building fences between us To protect, to separate and Remain apart ever again, As we choose to grow our Love in peaceful loving harmony Of uniting the two into one. May 11, 2023 Still Mountain Retreat
Photo Credit: Chinmayan
Original Revelation and Calligraphy by Chinmayan 1984
Image Credit: Still Mountain Meditation Center
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